Getting the attention of a guy that you're interested in shouldn't require a skillfully laid out plan. Men don't need to be a mystery to you and getting the attention of any man you desire requires only a few key pieces of knowledge. It doesn't matter how handsome he is, how popular he is or even if you think that there is no way that he will be attracted to you. Once you understand how men process attraction and what will draw him in, it won't even matter if there is a model hitting on him. You will be the one talking to him at the end of the night.
You probably have already figured out that men feel things just a little bit differently than women. Attempting to get a guy's attention in the same way that you would like a man to approach you simply will not work. You can try being nice to him and engaging him in stimulating conversation but what is your goal? You aren't looking for another friend. You're hoping that he'll ask you out. You're not interested in being one of his many girlfriends. You want him to forget about every other woman in the room. You want him to pay attention to you and you alone. That is what we're talking about when we say that we're going to attract a man.
First, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to things visually at first. It doesn't matter if it's a car, a woman or a coffee maker. If it turns him on visually at first then you have his attention. If you are nervous because you feel that you're not the prettiest or thinnest or most attractive woman in the room, don't worry. All it takes is one thing for him to find you attractive. One physical feature is all that is necessary to get his attention and lead him to you. You don't have to be perfect. For every man that has ever approached a woman at a bar and asked for her number, all it took was one feature to initiate that attraction.
Maybe you have beautiful eyes or really nice hair. It could be that you have shapely legs or nice hair. Whatever it is that you can use to get his attention like a red cape in front of a bull, that is what you're going to focus on and accentuate. Forget about any feature or aspect of your appearance that you dislike. Focus on the positive things that you have and hide the negative things that you don't like about yourself for the moment. You simply need to turn his head for a moment and make him do a double take and you will know that you have him in your grasp.
Now the real fun begins. You might be hesitant to flirt but it is a necessary part of the mating ritual. Birds and beasts alike flirt. Women in our society used to be skilled at flirting but it has gone out of style in the past few years. This doesn't meant that flirting doesn't work. Flirting works very well and it is appreciated by men tremendously. Most women feel that it's silly or beneath them. This is just one more reason why flirting will get his attention and set you apart from other women. You might think that you're being transparent or that he will think that you're ridiculous but quite the opposite is true. Men rarely experience being flirted with so overt flirting is actually quite flattering to them.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Once you have gotten his attention it is time to connect with him and make him feel something special for you and you alone. Stimulating conversation is at the top of list of desire able traits in a mate for all of us but so many women fear that they have to be highly intelligent or that they have to impress a man to make a good impression. The truth is that people love to talk about themselves. By asking good questions and going beyond what any other woman might dare to ask, you can create a bond with him that will disarm him and make him feel like he has known you all his life or that you were meant to be together. It is all a matter of being a little bold as the conversation moves along and keeping the focus on him.
For instance, you might ask him what he does for a living. After he answers, asking him if this is what he envisioned himself doing when he was a kid, is a good question that will lead you into his private life. Dig deep and you will be able to get him to talk about his past, his family and even past relationships. He will bond with you and feel connected with you in a way that can only be surpassed by physical intimacy. Be aware of any hesitation in his voice. Assure him that you find him interesting and that you want to hear more about what he thinks and feels.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
You probably have already figured out that men feel things just a little bit differently than women. Attempting to get a guy's attention in the same way that you would like a man to approach you simply will not work. You can try being nice to him and engaging him in stimulating conversation but what is your goal? You aren't looking for another friend. You're hoping that he'll ask you out. You're not interested in being one of his many girlfriends. You want him to forget about every other woman in the room. You want him to pay attention to you and you alone. That is what we're talking about when we say that we're going to attract a man.
First, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to things visually at first. It doesn't matter if it's a car, a woman or a coffee maker. If it turns him on visually at first then you have his attention. If you are nervous because you feel that you're not the prettiest or thinnest or most attractive woman in the room, don't worry. All it takes is one thing for him to find you attractive. One physical feature is all that is necessary to get his attention and lead him to you. You don't have to be perfect. For every man that has ever approached a woman at a bar and asked for her number, all it took was one feature to initiate that attraction.
Maybe you have beautiful eyes or really nice hair. It could be that you have shapely legs or nice hair. Whatever it is that you can use to get his attention like a red cape in front of a bull, that is what you're going to focus on and accentuate. Forget about any feature or aspect of your appearance that you dislike. Focus on the positive things that you have and hide the negative things that you don't like about yourself for the moment. You simply need to turn his head for a moment and make him do a double take and you will know that you have him in your grasp.
Now the real fun begins. You might be hesitant to flirt but it is a necessary part of the mating ritual. Birds and beasts alike flirt. Women in our society used to be skilled at flirting but it has gone out of style in the past few years. This doesn't meant that flirting doesn't work. Flirting works very well and it is appreciated by men tremendously. Most women feel that it's silly or beneath them. This is just one more reason why flirting will get his attention and set you apart from other women. You might think that you're being transparent or that he will think that you're ridiculous but quite the opposite is true. Men rarely experience being flirted with so overt flirting is actually quite flattering to them.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Once you have gotten his attention it is time to connect with him and make him feel something special for you and you alone. Stimulating conversation is at the top of list of desire able traits in a mate for all of us but so many women fear that they have to be highly intelligent or that they have to impress a man to make a good impression. The truth is that people love to talk about themselves. By asking good questions and going beyond what any other woman might dare to ask, you can create a bond with him that will disarm him and make him feel like he has known you all his life or that you were meant to be together. It is all a matter of being a little bold as the conversation moves along and keeping the focus on him.
For instance, you might ask him what he does for a living. After he answers, asking him if this is what he envisioned himself doing when he was a kid, is a good question that will lead you into his private life. Dig deep and you will be able to get him to talk about his past, his family and even past relationships. He will bond with you and feel connected with you in a way that can only be surpassed by physical intimacy. Be aware of any hesitation in his voice. Assure him that you find him interesting and that you want to hear more about what he thinks and feels.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
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